5-things-you-can-do-every-day-to-build-self-esteem-and-self-confidenceLets Start Building Your Confidence

As a male escort I often get many enquiry’s from women who have been out of the dating game for some time, while either due to coming out of a long term relationship or a having low self esteem and confidence issues around meeting new potential partners. Rest assured that confidence and self asteem is something you can defiantly get back.

I recently read a blog entry regarding dating non conversationalists. I consider myself a very outgoing person, and someone who can usually carry on a conversation with anyone. The problem I see in most women who have low self esteem is that they freeze up and become shy, quiet and introverted. I think this  is that women with low confidence feel afraid to look or say something “un-cool”. I myself suffered from little self confidence until a few years ago, and didn’t want to “date” anyone out of my own circle of friends. I totally felt I had nothing to talk about to a complete stranger!

What helped me!!

There is never MORE to talk about than when you know absolutely NOTHING about someone.

However, the predicament  is an important one, because it’s something that my clients ask me somewhat regularly.

”What should I talk about?”

And, as I see it, unless you’ve already covered the topics of his work, his family, where he lives, how long he’s lived there, what he aspires to, how he enjoys dating, and his various tastes in movies, literature, music, and travel, you should probably have plenty to say. Especially if he’s kind enough to ask you a few questions as well.

I must admit it is not easy for either a female or a male who feels self conscious and is suffering from low self esteem  . But the point remains the same. You can talk about pretty much ANYTHING on a date. Yes to politics. Yes to religion. Yes to sex. Yes to ex-boyfriends. As long as you don’t fall into the trap of  putting down another’s opinion, or pining for a former lover, you should be pretty safe.

As you can tell from your own expreience, the worst thing you can do is worry about what you’re going to say. Fear being uncool, and you may actually become uncool. The coolest people I know are those comfortable in their own skin. Nerds who embrace being nerds? Very cool. Average guy posing as a “cool” guy? Uncool.

And let’s face it: occasionally you’ll stick your foot in your mouth and say something stupid. That’s life. You just need the confidence to play it off afterwards. Hell, that’s what always keeps me going and this shows you are human as we all do the same. I can literally write a book on all the foolish things I’ve said or done on dates, and I’m sure my ex’s can write another two volumes about my idiocy, the main trick in this scenario is to feel free to laugh at yourself and be honest blame it on your nerves which is a fantastic conversation starter in its self 🙂 Just know that the more you tie yourself up with worry, the less likely you are to be your authentic self. I can’t help but to think of a baseball player overthinking a big at-bat, or an actor freezing on an audition. The only way to succeed in something this visceral is to turn off your brain and get out of your own way, easier said than done??? well I can offer you a date where all these points can be covered and help you well on your whey to be the Alpha female in your future dates without changing anything to do with your personality.

This all reminds me of a personal situation. It was 2010. I was been interviewed  be Womens Magazine regarding the different scenarios I am placed in being a male escort. Some of the questions are here as followed:

“Do you not get nervous before a date?” the lady asked.

I paused for a second, considering.

“No…actually I don’t.”

I thought about it some more.

“I just figured  that if I’m being myself on the date, and you don’t like me, there’s not much I can do about it. Why spend any time worrying beforehand?”

Worrying has never helped anybody become a better date. Being on time does. Asking questions does. Staying positive does. But what can I possibly gain by going into the experience like I’m a nervous college graduate interviewing for a job?

My advice is to,  create a subtle shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking that you’re the nervous college graduate, pretend that you’re the boss – confident, secure, not determined to impress. Trust me, you’ll be more impressive.

The best help I can give about how to “be” on a date is this: Think about the people in the world with whom you’re most comfortable. Your mom, your high school friend, your sister, whatever. How are you when you’re around them? Comfortable. Honest. Vulnerable. Silly. Real. Try bringing that same persona and energy to a date. If that’s you at your best, why would you choose to be any other way ?

I know there’s a big difference between talking the talk and walking the walk, but I’m telling you – if you go into each date with the assumption of success, you’re more likely to have real success.

If you are suffering from low self esteem/ low confidence, then having a date with someone you have never met before can be a daunting prospect, I can offer help by being totally honest with you, like where you can improve your feelings to become more your natural self and provide you the perfect questions to help your date go smoothly and also make sure you get the most from it.

Please feel free to contact me with any further questions on:07526 721 956 or drop me an email at: I will be more than happy to help.

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Thanks for reading

Ian xx


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